You’ve got to take a deep dive into the center of the pain, immerse yourself in it, the way you would immerse yourself in a
Category: Personal Essay
Giving Thanks
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! In past blog posts, I’ve extolled the benefits of a gratitude practice (Gratitude: The Practice and Gratitude: The Concept). Today on the
The Five Wishes©
If I could choose the scene of my death, it would look something like this: in my home, in my bed, in my sleep. Totally
Dreams
Lately, the things that scare me aren’t death or disease. Although given what I’ve been through in the past ten years (lots of deaths, lots
Evacuate?
Saturday, October 26, 2019, 5:30 pm – The Kincade fire, a two-hour drive north of me in Sonoma County, is spreading and the wind is
Where Suffering Resides
Suffering resides in the space between expectation and reality. I’ll offer a few examples: Expectation: that my son would outlive me. Reality: He did not. Expectation: that
Grief Hurts
Grief is the pain associated with loss. It’s normal to want the pain to stop, to want it to go away. It’s normal to feel
When Children Grieve
When young people experience the death of a loved one (including pets), there is that extra layer of care we take because children are often
Ask For Help
Some of us are uncomfortable asking for help under any circumstances. Even if we’re sick or injured. Even if someone we love has just died.
Big Brother IS Watching
I use this blogging platform to write about loss and grief. Most of my readers (and clients in real life) have experienced either the death
Don’t Be Strong
When we encounter someone who is grieving, we tend to want to say things that will help them feel better, perhaps even help them feel
Unlearning What To Say & Do
What’s one of the first things we’re told when we experience loss as young children? When something disappoints us, or our feelings get hurt, or
