When you experience a loss and you live with grief, people tell you to move on and let go, but they don’t tell you how.

Or worse…they say things like: “replace the loss,” or to “be grateful your loved one is at peace, or with God, or no longer in pain,” or to “distract yourself from your pain by getting busy,” or to simply expect “time to heal all wounds.”

None of this is helpful, no matter how well-intentioned. (If I’m being honest, I have to admit I’ve been guilty in the past of saying some of these things.)

We are all experts at ACQUIRING. Acquiring things, acquiring relationships, acquiring money, success, fame and status. All of our cultural norms point us in that direction.

But we are taught precious little about what to do when loss occurs, how to live with our grief, how to talk about it, how to show up for others who are experiencing it. It’s a tragic state of affairs because those who experience loss, then also experience a sense of isolation as a result. This is SO unnecessary, and leads to a great deal of dysfunction in our personal relationships and in society at large.

The GRIEF RECOVERY METHOD® is a system, created by John W. James and Russell Friedman (authors of “The Grief Recovery Handbook,” “The Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss” and others), and refined over the past 40 years, to recover from loss with supportive guidance every step of the way.

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As a Certified Grief Recovery Method® specialist, I have personally experienced the method and worked on my own grief and loss. I have been trained to listen with an open heart and guide you through a 7-part program. We will go at your pace. Once a week for approximately 90 minutes each week seems to work for most.

IMG_0354I also conduct grief support groups specifically for PET LOSS. Loss is woefully misunderstood in our society and culture, but PET LOSS is sadly often treated with a lack of sympathy often bordering on the cruel. If you have had to say goodbye to a furry companion, such as a dog, cat or horse, and no one seems to understand why you are so grief-stricken, you have come to the right place. Your grief will not be trivialized and you will not be told to “get over it; it’s just a cat or dog!” You will be among others who have experienced a similar loss and will be given tools to resolve your grief.

Loss and unresolved grief can drain the joy right out of us when we don’t have the proper tools. The good news: The tools exist!

Contact me with any questions you may have. If you’re not sure this is what you need or whether the timing is right, let’s figure that out together. During early grief especially, one’s thinking can be very muddled; it can feel impossible to make decisions. This is actually really normal. So NO pressure. You’ve been through a lot. Just consider giving yourself this gift of self-care, peace, and the possibility of joy again in your future. If you’re not ready now, I’ll still be here when you are.

May you find the comfort you need during your time of loss.